Why worrying is really like a rocking chair

Ever since I was younger, I have been a massive worrier. Any little thing that I was anxious to do or something that I had done that I thought perhaps I shouldn't have, used to just play on my mind for what seemed like forever. I'm not saying that I have drastically changed - I haven't - but I have learnt that some things are just not in your control and aren't worth worrying about. 

In life, we are all going to encounter certain problems that we will worry about. When I'm older, I'm sure I'll be worrying about what bills I have to pay and if I can afford a mortgage. However, I have learnt, from many people, that worrying about the future won't get you anywhere - much like sitting on a rocking chair. In the present day, what will you achieve by worrying about something that is months/years along the line? I like to think that if it is something substantial, I could do something now to avoid the worry in the future. Going back to the example of money issues, you could start saving or maybe be more frugal. Yes, okay, I am a beauty blogger and, yes, so many products tempt me all the time but I just tell myself that buying this product isn't going to help the issue; it may cause me to worry further down the line and I don't want that. 

On the other side, I always used to worry about things that were in the past. Even now, I struggle to accept that nothing more can be done and that I should move on. For example, last June I took an exam and all throughout the summer I was stressing/worrying about how I did. Many people kept telling me that I had done it and I couldn't do any more to change the result yet I continued to worry. Come collecting my results, I was happy with my grade and thought that I was silly for getting so worked up about it. For me, it was just the question of 'What if'! What if people thought I wasn't clever enough to be taking the course?  What if I could have done more beforehand? What if I was a few marks off my predicted grade? These thoughts were surrounding me but what was I actually achieving by this? Nothing. I was just working myself up with no end result. Again, this is how worrying is really like a rocking chair! 

Some of the techniques I use now are to tell people my worries, together we can find a solution, if there is a problem, or if not I can get it off my chest. Then, I simply say to myself to stop thinking about it. Sometimes I even do the action of taking something out of my head and throwing it away. However silly that may sound, it actually works for me. 

Worrying will play on your mind and consume your time but it won't leave you with any gain. It won't make anything better and sometimes it can actually make things worse. Obviously I'm not trying to say that I won't get worried anymore - I most likely will, it's in my nature. If I am worried, however, I will tell myself some of the points that I have discussed in this post - the main one being the simile between worrying and a rocking chair. It will give you something to do but won't get you anywhere!

I hope this post was somewhat helpful, if you are a worrier like me. Would you like any other posts like this? Or would you prefer my usual types of ones? Let me know! 

xox