Why worrying is really like a rocking chair

Wednesday 4 November 2015


Ever since I was younger, I have been a massive worrier. Any little thing that I was anxious to do or something that I had done that I thought perhaps I shouldn't have, used to just play on my mind for what seemed like forever. I'm not saying that I have drastically changed - I haven't - but I have learnt that some things are just not in your control and aren't worth worrying about. 

In life, we are all going to encounter certain problems that we will worry about. When I'm older, I'm sure I'll be worrying about what bills I have to pay and if I can afford a mortgage. However, I have learnt, from many people, that worrying about the future won't get you anywhere - much like sitting on a rocking chair. In the present day, what will you achieve by worrying about something that is months/years along the line? I like to think that if it is something substantial, I could do something now to avoid the worry in the future. Going back to the example of money issues, you could start saving or maybe be more frugal. Yes, okay, I am a beauty blogger and, yes, so many products tempt me all the time but I just tell myself that buying this product isn't going to help the issue; it may cause me to worry further down the line and I don't want that. 

On the other side, I always used to worry about things that were in the past. Even now, I struggle to accept that nothing more can be done and that I should move on. For example, last June I took an exam and all throughout the summer I was stressing/worrying about how I did. Many people kept telling me that I had done it and I couldn't do any more to change the result yet I continued to worry. Come collecting my results, I was happy with my grade and thought that I was silly for getting so worked up about it. For me, it was just the question of 'What if'! What if people thought I wasn't clever enough to be taking the course?  What if I could have done more beforehand? What if I was a few marks off my predicted grade? These thoughts were surrounding me but what was I actually achieving by this? Nothing. I was just working myself up with no end result. Again, this is how worrying is really like a rocking chair! 

Some of the techniques I use now are to tell people my worries, together we can find a solution, if there is a problem, or if not I can get it off my chest. Then, I simply say to myself to stop thinking about it. Sometimes I even do the action of taking something out of my head and throwing it away. However silly that may sound, it actually works for me. 

Worrying will play on your mind and consume your time but it won't leave you with any gain. It won't make anything better and sometimes it can actually make things worse. Obviously I'm not trying to say that I won't get worried anymore - I most likely will, it's in my nature. If I am worried, however, I will tell myself some of the points that I have discussed in this post - the main one being the simile between worrying and a rocking chair. It will give you something to do but won't get you anywhere!


I hope this post was somewhat helpful, if you are a worrier like me. Would you like any other posts like this? Or would you prefer my usual types of ones? Let me know! 
xox

8 comments:

  1. I have always been a huge worried too. Thanks for the advice it is definitely something I will take on board. Quiche question, when you take the worry out of your head what exactly do you do? I'd like to give it a try.
    Thanks again
    Caitlin
    www.thelittlegingerblog.blogspot.com

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    1. Thank you - that's lovely to hear! Really glad the post has helped! I physically place my hand on my head and make the action of throwing the thoughts away!

      xox

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  2. Great post - I'm very similar in that way. I have some sort of mild anxiety that causes me to worry over every little thing to the point of it replaying in my head later on too. Sometimes I like to tell myself that my concern over even the smallest details just means that I work really hard and a bit of a perfectionist ;) Which is great in a lot of ways since it means that I do my best to make sure I'm pleased with my accomplishments.

    Jasmine | The Sixth Disney Princess

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    1. Thank you, yeah it consumes much of my time too! Haha, yeah that's a good way of thinking about it!

      xox

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  3. Lovely post! I am very very similar! I suffer with anxiety in so many situations, I don't want to bore you naming them all but it's mainly worrying about things that are so unlikely to happen or the past, like you said with exams. When ii n work I always sorry because ci think I am always going to fail it x


    http://thriftyvintagefashion.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. Thank you! That's basically me summed up in a nutshell but I've just learnt that, however hard it is to stop worrying, you have to try. Maybe some of the techniques mentioned in this post may help: telling people you trust or making the action of throwing the worry away. I hope the worries gradually start to fade for you! I'm sure you wouldn't fail!

      xox

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  4. I like this analogy! I'm a worrier too and it's definitely hard to break the habit of asking "what if", even if we have absolutely no ability to change what's happened. I was definitely like this with my leaving cert exams and I did fine in the end too, I guess its just learning to worry about things we can change and letting everything else go - however hard that may be! x

    www.zoecoco.com

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    1. It's a really effective one! Yeah, I completely agree! That's very true!

      xox

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Wednesday 4 November 2015

Why worrying is really like a rocking chair


Ever since I was younger, I have been a massive worrier. Any little thing that I was anxious to do or something that I had done that I thought perhaps I shouldn't have, used to just play on my mind for what seemed like forever. I'm not saying that I have drastically changed - I haven't - but I have learnt that some things are just not in your control and aren't worth worrying about. 

In life, we are all going to encounter certain problems that we will worry about. When I'm older, I'm sure I'll be worrying about what bills I have to pay and if I can afford a mortgage. However, I have learnt, from many people, that worrying about the future won't get you anywhere - much like sitting on a rocking chair. In the present day, what will you achieve by worrying about something that is months/years along the line? I like to think that if it is something substantial, I could do something now to avoid the worry in the future. Going back to the example of money issues, you could start saving or maybe be more frugal. Yes, okay, I am a beauty blogger and, yes, so many products tempt me all the time but I just tell myself that buying this product isn't going to help the issue; it may cause me to worry further down the line and I don't want that. 

On the other side, I always used to worry about things that were in the past. Even now, I struggle to accept that nothing more can be done and that I should move on. For example, last June I took an exam and all throughout the summer I was stressing/worrying about how I did. Many people kept telling me that I had done it and I couldn't do any more to change the result yet I continued to worry. Come collecting my results, I was happy with my grade and thought that I was silly for getting so worked up about it. For me, it was just the question of 'What if'! What if people thought I wasn't clever enough to be taking the course?  What if I could have done more beforehand? What if I was a few marks off my predicted grade? These thoughts were surrounding me but what was I actually achieving by this? Nothing. I was just working myself up with no end result. Again, this is how worrying is really like a rocking chair! 

Some of the techniques I use now are to tell people my worries, together we can find a solution, if there is a problem, or if not I can get it off my chest. Then, I simply say to myself to stop thinking about it. Sometimes I even do the action of taking something out of my head and throwing it away. However silly that may sound, it actually works for me. 

Worrying will play on your mind and consume your time but it won't leave you with any gain. It won't make anything better and sometimes it can actually make things worse. Obviously I'm not trying to say that I won't get worried anymore - I most likely will, it's in my nature. If I am worried, however, I will tell myself some of the points that I have discussed in this post - the main one being the simile between worrying and a rocking chair. It will give you something to do but won't get you anywhere!


I hope this post was somewhat helpful, if you are a worrier like me. Would you like any other posts like this? Or would you prefer my usual types of ones? Let me know! 
xox

8 comments:

  1. I have always been a huge worried too. Thanks for the advice it is definitely something I will take on board. Quiche question, when you take the worry out of your head what exactly do you do? I'd like to give it a try.
    Thanks again
    Caitlin
    www.thelittlegingerblog.blogspot.com

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Thank you - that's lovely to hear! Really glad the post has helped! I physically place my hand on my head and make the action of throwing the thoughts away!

      xox

      Delete
  2. Great post - I'm very similar in that way. I have some sort of mild anxiety that causes me to worry over every little thing to the point of it replaying in my head later on too. Sometimes I like to tell myself that my concern over even the smallest details just means that I work really hard and a bit of a perfectionist ;) Which is great in a lot of ways since it means that I do my best to make sure I'm pleased with my accomplishments.

    Jasmine | The Sixth Disney Princess

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Thank you, yeah it consumes much of my time too! Haha, yeah that's a good way of thinking about it!

      xox

      Delete
  3. Lovely post! I am very very similar! I suffer with anxiety in so many situations, I don't want to bore you naming them all but it's mainly worrying about things that are so unlikely to happen or the past, like you said with exams. When ii n work I always sorry because ci think I am always going to fail it x


    http://thriftyvintagefashion.blogspot.co.uk

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Thank you! That's basically me summed up in a nutshell but I've just learnt that, however hard it is to stop worrying, you have to try. Maybe some of the techniques mentioned in this post may help: telling people you trust or making the action of throwing the worry away. I hope the worries gradually start to fade for you! I'm sure you wouldn't fail!

      xox

      Delete
  4. I like this analogy! I'm a worrier too and it's definitely hard to break the habit of asking "what if", even if we have absolutely no ability to change what's happened. I was definitely like this with my leaving cert exams and I did fine in the end too, I guess its just learning to worry about things we can change and letting everything else go - however hard that may be! x

    www.zoecoco.com

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. It's a really effective one! Yeah, I completely agree! That's very true!

      xox

      Delete

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